What does a your man feel about proposing?

For months and months you have been secretly talking to your best mates about the following questions,

When do you do it ?

What is her ring size ?

How much should a ring cost?

What is her dad going to say ?

In a way, with myself, it became slightly more of an event than first planned. I am extremely lucky to have married an amazing Irish Girl "Galway Girl".  We were sort of mid table in terms of friends and family that have got married and we had discussed it slightly in the past but nothing of significant note..... well that is what I thought! haha No in all serious, my now wife stated she wanted to get married before she was 30 and on a few occasions on alcohol fuelled nights she had been know to shout out "why are we not married". This was the kick I needed to nudge me in the right direction and get things moving.

Her birthday was actually flying up and I had one month to plan and make tracks across the Irish sea to ask her father and move ever closer to making this official.

It is a hugely daunting factor to ask the father of the women you love for permission to marry his daughter, or so I thought!


In my circumstances the scene was set. I planned on taking the future father in law to a Hurling Match, the sport he loves, with this game having now became more significant, bearing in mind one of his sons was also competing.


My thinking at the time was great, me being English and Jose Irish from the west coast, there would be a minor bump with the accent but his attention would be elsewhere. I will quickly slip in the question, fingers crossed a positive answer, then home to hopefully celebrate a victory in the Hurling Match and in Anglo Irish relations because of the marriage of his daughter.


We did start to make small talk, it was tough to understand initially but considering I have been with my then girlfriend for 8 years and having lived in Galway, I should be used to the accent,  I put it down to nerves.

I had plucked up the courage and was about to pop the question when whom should turn up but my “fingers crossed” soon to be fiancé and her family. Plans were scuppered now moving to Plan B.


There was actually no plan B,  I had lost my mojo and could not find a suitable time again when father in law to be and myself would have a moment to ask.  I just proposed on my return home in a hugely romantic setting.


 What should I have done ? Should I have just grabbed him ? I had been in the family at this point for 8 years they must have known it was coming. On talking to some friends they did engineer conversation over the telephone to get the answer they required, is this more suitable ?


It is the traditional side and I was disappointed with myself but needs must and I just reacted to my circumstances.

So anyway back to the questions

When do you do it ?

When she keeps going on about it, as I am sure you will love her but just being a man you may not have thought about moving it on to the next level. Their is no shame, your relationship is fantastic, you are both happy sometimes you just need a prod in the right direction.

What is her ring size?

Grab an old ring that you know fits and take it into a jewellers they will be able to help and also give you advice on the right ring and what how much, all very useful info ?

How much should a ring cost?

I personally don't agree with this one in the scene, Love is love and you live by your own means, but it should involve some sort of financial sacrifice as far as hurts a little to find the money. You want to spend the rest of your life with this person don't forget. I have attached a number of articles for you to have a read up.

http://www.moneyunder30.com/how-much-should-you-spend-on-an-engagement-ring


http://www.whowhatwear.co.uk/how-much-to-spend-on-engagement-ring


What is her Dad going to say ?

In all honesty you should hope he is going to say yes, relationships are not cooked to perfection over night and you would have had on occasions to talk candidly to her father about current affairs to see where his views are. If he knows you love and will love his daughter this is always going to be positive.

So all in all in conclusion I add that if you love the girl everything will fall into place and their will be a happy ending, if not there is always Tinder!

Then it is on to the fun part the Hen Party and Stag Night, that is where I can use my professional experience to help you organise something special, so get in touch with grant@popthefizz.co.uk and have a look on www.popthefizz.com for ideas.